Hello Dads,
I haven't posted on this forum for a while (although the incredible @Ash and I have stayed in touch through DM's) but tomorrow I'm in court for my Final Hearing to Vary our existing Child Arrangements Order.
Brief overview;
2022, May - Ex and I split because I refused to have another child (our daughter was 2.5yrs old at the time and Ex and I both in our late 40's)
2022, July - I applied for a CAO as Ex would not agree to any overnights. She then started the false allegations of Domestic Violence
2023, March - Court awarded me Tuesday teatimes (3-7pm), every other weekend (Fri PM-Mon AM) and half "school" holidays
2023, November - With the exception of a few teatimes 'cancelled' due to illness, Ex had complied with order but had secretly instigated a Social Services Assesment
2024, January - I am completely exonerated in the findings of the SS Assessment
2024, May - I apply to Vary our existing CAO, asking for 50/50 but with the expectation it'll be whittled down to (hopefully) just get my Tues teatimes turned into overnights
2024, May - Ex cross applies with an SIO to have our daughter's surname double barrelled (at the moment it's just mine). We were never married
2024, September - at the First Directions hearing I offer Ex up the surname in exchange for the midweek overnight, she declines
2024, October - my Ex claims our daughter is a victim of DV by way of being present in an abusive relationship (all false)
2024, Nov - we are in court tomorrow for a Final Hearing and magistrates will decide the surname and midweek overnights
So.. as many of you who have been through this process before know; it's the night before the final hearing and I'm freaking out a bit!
Any kinds words or advice would be most appreciated!
I haven't posted on this forum for a while (although the incredible @Ash and I have stayed in touch through DM's) but tomorrow I'm in court for my Final Hearing to Vary our existing Child Arrangements Order.
Brief overview;
2022, May - Ex and I split because I refused to have another child (our daughter was 2.5yrs old at the time and Ex and I both in our late 40's)
2022, July - I applied for a CAO as Ex would not agree to any overnights. She then started the false allegations of Domestic Violence
2023, March - Court awarded me Tuesday teatimes (3-7pm), every other weekend (Fri PM-Mon AM) and half "school" holidays
2023, November - With the exception of a few teatimes 'cancelled' due to illness, Ex had complied with order but had secretly instigated a Social Services Assesment
2024, January - I am completely exonerated in the findings of the SS Assessment
2024, May - I apply to Vary our existing CAO, asking for 50/50 but with the expectation it'll be whittled down to (hopefully) just get my Tues teatimes turned into overnights
2024, May - Ex cross applies with an SIO to have our daughter's surname double barrelled (at the moment it's just mine). We were never married
2024, September - at the First Directions hearing I offer Ex up the surname in exchange for the midweek overnight, she declines
2024, October - my Ex claims our daughter is a victim of DV by way of being present in an abusive relationship (all false)
2024, Nov - we are in court tomorrow for a Final Hearing and magistrates will decide the surname and midweek overnights
So.. as many of you who have been through this process before know; it's the night before the final hearing and I'm freaking out a bit!
Any kinds words or advice would be most appreciated!
