Book written by previously alienated adult

I've just finished this book. It gives an insight into how alienated children maybe feeling.

I'm just thinking of ways of anonymously getting a copy to my partners kids.

Do you have contact by text at all? I think directly linking a copy may not be productive. Maybe there's a way to let them find it? I was always told the best way was to help with critical thinking skills, so they work it out for themselves - but that's difficult when you don't actually see them.

Anything you send, the ex is likely to see.

This is the issue Ash, finding a way for them to 'find' it.

I'll update later with latest round of madness. The mother getting more unpredictable and unstable.

I'm trying to think of a way. During the pandemic when I wasn't seeing my son but supposed to have phone contact, my ex stopped my son communicating with me, but he would send the odd link to a tiktok video to get round it. I'd have to try and work out what he was trying to tell me from the video. It was some level of contact. Does this book author happen to have a youtube account or tik tok account - on a totally different topic? ie not about PA - but just so it looks like an innocent/interesting topic you've sent in a link - and they might look further into the person whose videos they are ........... Or - some time later you could send a link to the same person where they do mention their life within another topic. Eg a video about something else, during which they say they wrote a book about their childhood etc.

We've been doing similar to you Ash as we both do a whatsapp status regularly that both kids look at. It's usually funny animal videos, photos of stuff we're doing etc.
My partners son does regular whatsapp updates, daughter does them once in a blue moon. I'm not naive enough to assume it's just aimed at us as it'll be for their friends to look at too.
Daughter did do one of an old video of her brother which got me wondering if it was aimed at dad. She did one a few weeks ago which I think was to get attention. It was full of swear words which wasn't nice but I think it was to get a reaction.

The author of the book was helped by Karen Woodall. I'm not sure if she has an online presence because I don't think her name is real.

We haven't had son since September now. Every other week his mother will text to say he doesn't want to come over.
During half term my partner went round and asked to see his son. Mother made it difficult and said my partner had to park on the drive and suggested my partner might abduct his son!! So son came out with bare feet and no coat.
Before son went with dad mother kept asking him over and over what do you want to do. So dad stepped in and told son to put on some shoes and a coat for a drive around the block. Mother kept saying you don't tell them what to do. But sometimes as a parent you do so the poor kid doesn't feel pressure to please the mother.
Apparently son doesn't like dad asking questions.

Last Saturday mother didn't text to say son didn't want to come round so we went round in the morning. It was a blatant set up as she opened the door and she'd made an effort with her appearance. She said she was muddled with the dates, dad should have messaged, she couldn't deal with it and closed the door.

She then messaged to suggest using the school as a third party to ask son twice a week what he wants to do. My partner said no as school should be a place he can go to to forget about his parental worry. Also she'll still be able to manipulate son into saying what she wants and triangulating yet another third party into the mess.

We've tried and failed to get a meeting with the school to air our concerns. The tutor initially seemed helpful at parents evening but keeps fobbing off dad.

Really sorry to hear this. His son must be able to see what's going on. I think I'd focus more on being able to keep contact rather than sending links about alienation. The boy doesn't sound alienated, just powerless.

I hope both kids can see what's going on.
They're both becoming so isolated. Not just from dad and his family but friends aswell. They're both finding it difficult to make friends at school.
Until someone believes us and sees their mother has issues, nothing will change.